{"product_id":"anxious-and-avoidant-in-love-how-to-stop-the-push-pull-dynamic-understand-your-attachment-style-and-create-a-secure-lasting-relationship-paperback","title":"Anxious and Avoidant in Love: How to Stop the Push-Pull Dynamic, Understand Your Attachment Style, and Create a Secure, Lasting Relationship - Paperback","description":"\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cp style=\"text-align: right;\"\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/reportcopyrightinfringement.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\"\u003e\u003cb\u003eReport copyright infringement\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\u003cp\u003eby \u003cb\u003eOlivia E. Barrett M. Sc\u003c\/b\u003e (Author)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eYou check your phone for the forty-seventh time this hour. Across town, your partner sits in the car, unable to come inside yet.\u003c\/b\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eYou reach. They retreat. The tighter you hold on, the further they pull away, and the further they pull away, the tighter you hold on. \u003cb\u003eNeither of you is doing this on purpose. Neither of you knows how to stop.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eYou know the labels, anxious, avoidant. \u003cb\u003eBut knowing the pattern has never once stopped the pattern.\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cb\u003eBy the time you finish this book, you will: \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eUnderstand exactly why your nervous system reads distance as danger, or closeness as a threat, and why willpower was never going to fix that\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHave specific scripts and grounding tools to use in the moment you're triggered, not after, when it's too late to matter\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eKnow how to have the conversations that used to end in silence or shutdown, including the ones about money, sex, and family\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRecognize the difference between a present-day conflict and an old attachment wound getting hit\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eStart building earned security: a documented, research-backed way to develop the secure attachment you didn't get growing up\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003ci\u003eAnxious and Avoidant in Love\u003c\/i\u003e was written by Olivia E. Barrett, M.Sc., a psychotherapist with nearly three decades of clinical experience in trauma and attachment. \u003cb\u003eThis is not another quiz that sorts you into a category and leaves you there.\u003c\/b\u003e It is a working manual for the moments your relationship actually falls apart, grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy, polyvagal theory, and attachment research, filtered through what actually works with real couples in real crisis. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cb\u003eWhat this book covers: \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eThe anxious-avoidant trap.\u003c\/i\u003e Why this specific pairing creates a perfect storm, what is happening in each partner's nervous system, and why the initial chemistry between you was never a coincidence.\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eTools for the moment.\u003c\/i\u003e The Grounding Reset, Pause and Name, and the Safe Exit, Safe Return protocol, built for the exact minute you want to send the tenth text or go silent for the third day.\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eCommunication that actually holds.\u003c\/i\u003e The Weekly Check-In, the Repair Conversation, and a troubleshooting guide for when your usual structures stop working under real pressure.\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eHealing the wounds underneath.\u003c\/i\u003e A structured inner child exercise, guidance on when the pattern is attachment and when it is trauma, and how to build self-worth that does not depend on your partner's mood.\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eDoing this alone, if you have to.\u003c\/i\u003e How your own growth can shift the relationship even when your partner will not do the work, and how to tell the difference between a bad week and a relationship that is not going to change.\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eEarned security, the long game.\u003c\/i\u003e What it actually looks like to keep two nervous systems steady through real life: money stress, kids, career pressure, years five and ten. \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cb\u003eYou are not too much. You are not too cold. You are two nervous systems that learned to survive, now learning to trust.\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cb\u003eThis is how you build something steadier.\u003c\/b\u003e\n            \u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eNumber of Pages:\u003c\/strong\u003e 148\u003c\/div\u003e\n            \u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eDimensions:\u003c\/strong\u003e 0.32 x 9 x 6 IN\u003c\/div\u003e\n            \u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePublication Date:\u003c\/strong\u003e August 05, 2026\u003c\/div\u003e\n            ","brand":"BooksCloud","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":54263538483311,"sku":"9782940848218","price":27.21,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0717\/4966\/4879\/files\/Oaef-e4oGw9782940848218.webp?v=1789026679","url":"https:\/\/finderbooks.com\/products\/anxious-and-avoidant-in-love-how-to-stop-the-push-pull-dynamic-understand-your-attachment-style-and-create-a-secure-lasting-relationship-paperback","provider":"Finder Books ","version":"1.0","type":"link"}