{"product_id":"i-need-you-now-go-away-reclaiming-your-life-when-someone-you-love-has-a-personality-disorder-paperback","title":"I Need You... Now Go Away!: Reclaiming Your Life When Someone You Love Has a Personality Disorder - Paperback","description":"\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cp style=\"text-align: right;\"\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/reportcopyrightinfringement.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\"\u003e\u003cb\u003eReport copyright infringement\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\u003cp\u003eby \u003cb\u003eLaura Dabney\u003c\/b\u003e (Author)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eThe destigmatising and compassionate guide written from a psychiatrist's perspective on how to navigate relationships when you or your loved one has a personality disorder (PDO)\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003eI Need You... Now Go Away!\u003c\/i\u003e offers a powerful guide to understanding and transforming your relationship and step out of harmful push-pull cycles. Whether you're struggling with a loved one's behaviour - or recognizing patterns in yourself - this book helps you make sense of what's really going on beneath the surface. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003e MYTH: \u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003e \"Personality disorders are frightening and negative.\"\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003ci\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eTruth: \u003c\/b\u003e \"PDOs are patterns of behavior that keep people at arm's length from those they care about... The difference is that people with PDOs consistently do things that disrupt their relationships, whether at home, work, or elsewhere. Their behavior gravely impacts a major area of their life.\"\u003c\/i\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003ci\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eMYTH: \"People with personality disorders cannot be treated.\"\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003ci\u003e \u003cb\u003eTruth: \u003c\/b\u003e \"With the right therapy, many people with PDOs \u003c\/i\u003eare \u003ci\u003etreatable. Being diagnosed with one is not a death knell. It does not have to be for life. PDOs are learned, self-protective behaviors that can be unlearned. Most of the patients I treat learn to be in healthy, even thriving, relationships.\"\u003c\/i\u003e \u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003ci\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003ci\u003e \u003cb\u003eMYTH: \"It's impossible to have a meaningful relationship with someone with a personality disorder.\"\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003ci\u003e \u003cb\u003eTruth: \u003c\/b\u003e \"It's a matter of addressing unconscious fears around closeness and distancing. Many of my patients improve existing relationships or enter intimate relationships for the first time. It takes awareness, willingness, diligence, trust, and support, but, in many cases, it can be done.\"\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWith a foreword by bestselling author Jed Diamond (founder of The Good Men Project), Dr. Laura Dabney takes you inside the psychiatrist's office, revealing real clinical observations, treatment approaches, and practical strategies you can apply in your own life. For almost twenty-five years, Dr. Dabney has seen patients with personality disorders and has been featured in HuffPost, US News and World Report.\u003cbr\u003eInside, you'll discover: \u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHow to recognize destructive relationship patterns and interrupt them\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eA clear, non-stigmatizing look at \u003cb\u003eseven different personality disorders\u003c\/b\u003e--beyond just narcissism, sociopathy, and borderline traits\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHow people with these patterns think, feel, and behave--and why\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePractical tools to rebuild trust, connection, and emotional safety\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eWith the right insight and guidance, you can break free from repeating cycles, build healthier connections, and finally \u003cb\u003eexperience the kind of lasting intimacy you've been searching for.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003ch3\u003eAuthor Biography\u003c\/h3\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDr. Laura Dabney has been a psychiatrist in Virginia Beach, Virginia, for almost twenty-five years. In her psychiatry residency training, she learned to treat people with personality disorders. But it was not until she opened her practice in 2000 and joined a supervision group with other dynamic and analytic therapists that she really started to understand personality disorders in depth and adapt her treatment accordingly. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eDr. Dabney has treated patients in more than a dozen cities across Virginia, including Richmond. Her psychiatric expertise has been featured on radio, podcasts, websites, and in print media including \u003ci\u003eMartha Stewart Weddings\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eBustle HuffPost\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eTravel and Leisure\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eUS News and World Report\u003c\/i\u003e, and more. She consults for several major institutions, including the Virginia Veterans Administration Medical Center. In addition to receiving her MD, she is board certified in psychiatry and certified in life coaching. She was educated at Eastern Virginia Medical School in Norfolk, Virginia, and still resides in that area with her husband of thirty-three years and near her two grown sons and their families.\n            \u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eNumber of Pages:\u003c\/strong\u003e 288\u003c\/div\u003e\n            \u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eDimensions:\u003c\/strong\u003e 0.72 x 8.47 x 5.33 IN\u003c\/div\u003e\n            \u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePublication Date:\u003c\/strong\u003e June 09, 2026\u003c\/div\u003e\n            ","brand":"BooksCloud","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":53307017166959,"sku":"9781399835220","price":26.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0717\/4966\/4879\/files\/BNiaW01bzC9781399835220.webp?v=1781834194","url":"https:\/\/finderbooks.com\/products\/i-need-you-now-go-away-reclaiming-your-life-when-someone-you-love-has-a-personality-disorder-paperback","provider":"Finder Books ","version":"1.0","type":"link"}